talking back good thing

Kids Magana Back ne gaskiya a Good Thing!

Kafin ka ce “Get outta nan!” ko A'a Way!” karanta dukan wannan post farko, daga farkon har sosai karshen.

Sure, a lõkacin da yara suna magana ne da baya a kai, your fushi daukan kan kuma yana da matukar wuya a zauna a kwantar da hankula. Za ka iya ba ze gane cewa wannan kadan kasancewarsa ma yana da jijiya to kalubalen ka. Sai ya fara kashe, Na san yadda m shi sauti.

Duk da haka, lokacin da ka karanta tattaunawa bayan da ra'ayin, za ku ji ƙarshe yaba da magana baya iya kawai zama mai kyau ga yara.

Child Psychologist Kelly M. Flanagan, ya rubuta a cikin blog that he’s secretly happy that his kids say no to him every now and then. Ya bayyana cewa akwai wani abu a rayuwa da muke bukata da samun koma baya a, da kuma ciwon mai yawa yi a kan yin haka — ko da shi yana nufin cewa ba su cin veggies ko strapping ya seatbelt a — wajibi ne.

“Saboda gaskiya ne, ba za ka iya gaske ce 'a’ har za ka iya ce 'No.’ Muna bukatar mu san muna da zabi a rayuwa. Da 'yancin ka ce' Babu’ [ko “No gode” kamar yadda na fi son] ne sosai farkon mu ikon ce 'a.’ To kanmu. To rai. Kuma zuwa ga son,” he writes. He adds that kids should learn how to talk back in a “lafiya, taimaka muhalli” — cikin gida.

I mana, barin yaro magana baya ba ya nufin cewa a yi masa a duk tsawon lokacin. A girma yaro yana bukatar a yi iyaka.

Ya bukatar ya koyi yadda za a daidaitawa da kuma yarda da abin da ya ke ba da samun da hanya. Yana da dukan game balance, kuma yana da wani tsari da kai da yaro ya kamata aiki a kan yadda suke girma.

Research wato Caf ya nufi. A 2011 binciken da aka buga a mujallar Child Development ya nuna cewa babu makawa muhawara tsakanin iyaye da kuma yara, musamman tweens da matasa, bai amfana da wani yaro a cikin dogon gudu.

Amma wannan ba shi ne sowa-ko-jefawa-stuff irin shawara; fiye na mai tattaunawa, gaske.

Gubar binciken marubucin Joseph P. Allen ya ce a cikin wata hira da NPR, “Mun gano cewa, abin da matasa koya a handling wadannan irin sabani da iyayensu shi ne daidai abin da suka kama a cikin tsara duniya.”

The yara suka koya dace shawarwari skills a kwantar da hankula, tattara, kuma m iri amfani da wannan dabara a lokacin da ake rubutu da abokai. Suna ba da sauƙi swayed ko tura kan.

Allen da shawara cewa iyaye zaton waɗanda muhawara ba kamar yadda karfen kafa amma a matsayin horo ga m tunani — something the child can use later in life when he or she is presented with things that he should really say no to, kamar kwayoyi ko barasa, kuma m hali.

Domin yara girma lafiya, m manya, suna bukatar su koyi da fasaha na disagreeing, ko magana da baya da wuri. Suna bukatar su koyi yadda za a fitar da murya ji, tunani, ko ideas, da kuma koyi yadda za a yi nasu yanke shawara.

Ina kokarin ba rashin sanin cikakken farashi mu preschoolers. We talk to them and try to help them express how they feel about stuff, kamar dokoki mu gabatar. Wannan hanya, they feel included in the decision making.

Amma abin da za ku iya yi a lokacin da magana da baya jũya mummuna?

Yana da wani ilhami, Ina ce. Ka san lokacin da yara tattaunawa crosses da line tsakanin tsaye wa kansu ko kasancewa m. Ina wani lokacin da laifin shi, kuma. Na wani lokaci da ya zama sane da yadda na amsa musu. Na farko, kwantar da hankali, sa'an nan kuma bayyana cewa za su iya gaya mini tunaninsu ba tare da m ko m.

Sai na gaba lokacin da yaro ƙalubalantar your dalĩli, yi wani mataki baya, kuma ku tuna cewa yana da wani fasaha da ya bukatar. Sa'an nan, ci gaba da taimaka masa. kuma ku tuna, ƙananansu koyi da misali, kuma!

Sources:
Oktoba 21, 2015. “Kids Who ‘Talk Back’ Become More Successful Adults” (yahoo.com)
Nuwamba 6, 2013. "Dalilin Kowane Kid Kamata Magana Back to Iyayensu" (huffingtonpost.com)
Janairu 3, 2012. "Me ya sa A Teen ke ambatar Back iya samun Bright Future" (npr.org)