tham rov qab zoo tshaj plaws

Cov me nyuam tham Rov qab yog tau ib tug zoo tshaj plaws!

Ua ntej koj yuav hais “Tau outta no!” los yog tsis Way!” nyeem qhov no tag nrho ncej thawj, los ntawm thaum pib mus txog lub heev kawg.

Nco ntsoov, thaum cov me nyuam tham rov qab rau koj, koj npau yuav siv sij hawm thiab nws yog heev nyuaj rau nyob twj ywm. Koj muaj peev xwm tsis zoo li nkag siab hais tias qhov no me ntsis qab txawm muaj lub paj mus cam koj. Yog li ntawd yuav tau pib tawm, Kuv paub yuav ua li cas tsis nws suab.

Txawm li cas los, thaum koj twb nyeem cov kev xav qab lub tswv yim, koj yuav nws thiaj li txaus siab rau ntawd hais lus rov qab xwb tej zaum yuav zoo rau koj cov me nyuam.

tus me nyuam puas siab ntsws Kelly M. Flanagan, sau nyob rau hauv nws blog hais tias nws yog nyiag zoo siab hais tias nws cov me nyuam hais tias tsis muaj rau nws txhua txhua tam sim no thiab ces. Nws piav hais tias muaj ib tug tej yam nyob rau hauv lub neej uas peb yuav tsum tau tsis kam, thiab muaj ib tug ntau ntawm kev xyaum rau koj ua li ntawd — txawm yog hais tias nws txhais tau tias hais tias tsis muaj noj nws veggies los yog strapping nws txoj siv pav duav rau — yog tsim nyog.

“Vim hais tias qhov tseeb yog, koj yuav tsis hais tiag hais 'Yog’ kom txog thaum koj tau hais tias 'Tsis’ Peb yuav tsum paub tias peb muaj ib tug xaiv nyob rau hauv lub neej. Txoj kev ywj pheej hais tias 'Tsis’ [los yog “Tsis ua tsaug rau koj” raws li kuv xav] yog heev thaum pib ntawm peb muaj peev xwm hais tias 'Yog.’ rau peb tus kheej. mus rau lub neej. Thiab hlub,” nws sau. Nws ntxiv hais tias cov me nyuam yuav tsum kawm tau li cas los tham rov qab nyob rau hauv ib tug “muaj kev ruaj ntseg, txhawb ib puag ncig” — lub tsev.

ntawm cov hoob kawm, cia koj tus me nyuam tham rov qab tsis txhais hais tias hais tias yog rau nws tag nrho lub sij hawm. Ib tug loj hlob tus me nyuam yuav tsum tau muaj ib thaj tsam.

Nws yuav tsum kawm yuav ua li cas rau nruab nrab thiab lees hais tias nws tsis tau txais nws txoj kev. Nws yog tag nrho hais txog tshuav nyiaj li cas, thiab nws yog ib tug txheej txheem koj thiab koj tus me nyuam yuav tsum ua hauj lwm rau thaum lawv loj hlob mus txog.

Kev tshawb fawb kuj backs nws taw tes. A 2011 Txoj kev tshawb no luam tawm nyob rau hauv cov phau ntawv journal tus me nyuam txoj kev loj hlob qhia tau hais tias cov kev tsis pom nrias cov lus sib cav ntawm niam txiv thiab cov me nyuam, tshwj xeeb tshaj yog tweens thiab cov hluas, tsis tau txais txiaj ntsim ib tug me nyuam nyob rau hauv lub ntev mus dhia.

Tab sis nws tsis yog shouting-los yog-ntuav-khoom zoo ntawm kev sib cav; ntau tshaj ntawm ib tug kev sib tham, tiag tiag.

Lead kev tshawb no sau Yauxej P. Allen hais tias nyob rau hauv kev sib tham nrog NPR, “Peb pom tias cas ib tug hluas kawm nyob rau hauv kov tej yam tsis sib haum nrog lawv niam lawv txiv yog raws nraim li cas lawv coj mus rau hauv lawv cov phooj ywg ntiaj teb no.”

Cov me nyuam uas kawm kom muaj kev sib ceg txawj nyob rau hauv ib tug twj ywm, sau, thiab kaj siab lug yam ntaub ntawv tib cov txheej txheem thaum soj ntsuam nrog lawv cov phooj ywg. Lawv tsis yooj yim swayed los yog raug thawb dua.

Allen qhia tias cov niam cov txiv xav seb cov neeg cov lus sib cav tsis yog raws li xeeb txob tab sis raws li ib txoj kev kawm rau kev xav — ib yam dab tsi rau tus me nyuam yuav siv tau tom qab nyob rau hauv lub neej thaum nws los yog nws yog nyob nrog tej yam uas nws yuav tsum yeej hais tias tsis muaj rau, xws li tshuaj los yog dej caw, thiab pheej hmoo ua tus cwj pwm.

Rau cov me nyuam kom loj hlob noj qab nyob zoo, ywj siab rau cov neeg laus, lawv yuav tsum tau kawm cov kev txawj ntawm tsis sib haum, los yog hais lus rov qab ntxov. Lawv yuav tsum tau kawm yuav ua li cas rau suab tawm lawv lawm, xav, los yog cov tswv yim, thiab kawm tau li cas yuav ua rau lawv tus kheej kev txiav txim siab.

Kuv sim tsis txhob underestimate peb tau lawv kawm. Peb tham nrog lawv thiab sim pab lawv qhia yuav ua li cas lawv xav tias txog khoom, ib yam li cov kev cai peb kom. hais tias txoj kev, lawv xav tias muaj nyob rau hauv qhov kev txiav txim siab.

Tab sis koj yuav ua li cas thaum tham rov qab puv dab tuag?

Nws yog ib qho xav, Kuv xav hais tias. Koj paub tias thaum twg koj cov me nyuam tus yam crosses cov kab ntawm sawv rau lawv tus kheej los yog tsis hwm. Kuv tej zaum txhaum ntawm nws, heev. Kuv tej zaum kuj yuav tsum tau paub txog yuav ua li cas kuv teb rau lawv. thawj, txhob poobsiab thiab ces piav qhia hais tias lawv muaj peev xwm qhia rau kuv lawv cov kev xav tsis tau hais lus tsis zoo los sis tsis hwm.

Yog li ntawd tom ntej no lub sij hawm koj tus me nyuam txoj kev sib tw koj txoj cai, coj ib kauj ruam rov qab, thiab nco ntsoov tias nws yog ib tug kev txawj nws xav tau kev pab. ces, mus tom ntej thiab pab nws. thiab nco ntsoov, me ntsis sawv daws yuav kawm los ntawm kev piv txwv, heev!

Qhov chaw:
Lub kaum hli ntuj 21, 2015. "Cov me nyuam yog leej twg 'Tham Tom qab' Ua Ntau Successful Cov neeg laus" (yahoo.com)
Kaum ib hlis 6, 2013. "Lub Laj Thawj Txhua kas yuav tsum Tham Rov qab mus rau lawv cov niam txiv" (huffingtonpost.com)
Lub ib hlis ntuj 3, 2012. "Yog vim li cas ib tug menyuam Leej twg hais lus Back Tej zaum muaj ib lub Kaj yav tom ntej" (npr.org)