kulankhula chinthu mmbuyo wabwino

Kids Kulankhula Back kwenikweni Kanthu Good!

Musanayambe kunena “Pezani outta pano!” kapena No Way!” kuwerenga positi lonse yoyamba, kuyambira chiyambi mpaka mapeto.

zedi, Ana kulankhula mmbuyo pa inu, mtima wanu Zimatero ndipo ndi kovuta kwambiri kukhala odekha. Inu sizikuwoneka kuzindikira kuti uyu wamng'ono ali ndi mitsempha kwa inu. Kotero kuti tiyambirepo, Ine ndikudziwa momwe kupusa izo zikumveka.

Komabe, pamene inu kuwerenga maganizo kumbuyo lingaliro, inu m'kupita kuzindikira kuti akulankhula kumbuyo mwina basi bwino ana anu.

Child zamaganizo Kelly M. Flanagan, analemba ake Blog that he’s secretly happy that his kids say no to him every now and then. Iye anafotokoza kuti pali zinthu zina zabwino zomwe tiyenera kutha kwa, ndipo ali ambiri mchitidwe kutero — ngakhale zinthu kuti palibe kudya veggies ake kapena strapping seatbelt ake pa — m'pofunika.

“Chifukwa choonadi, inu simungakhoze kunena 'Inde’ mpaka inu mukhoza kunena 'No.’ Tiyenera kudziwa ife mwayi wosankha moyo. ufulu kunena 'No’ [kapena “No zikomo” monga Ndimaona] ndiye chiyambi cha mphamvu zathu kuti 'Inde.’ tokha. moyo. Ndi kukonda,” he writes. He adds that kids should learn how to talk back in a “otetezeka, malo abwino okhala” — kunyumba.

Kumene, polola mwana wanu kukula sizikutanthauza kuti inde kwa iye nthawi zonse. A mwana kukula ayenera kukhala ndi malire.

Iye ayenera kuphunzira mmene kugonja ndi kuvomereza kuti iye si kupeza njira yake. Izo ziri bwino, ndipo njira inu ndi mwana wanu ntchito monga iwo akukula.

Research komanso uyo mfundo yake. A 2011 phunziro lofalitsidwa mu magazini ya Development Child amasonyeza kuti mfundo mosalephera pakati pa makolo ndi ana, makamaka tweens ndi achinyamata, Kodi bwanji mwana pamapeto pake.

Koma si kufuula kapena kuwaza-zinthu ngati mtsutso; zambiri mumve, kwenikweni.

Kutsogolera phunziro wolemba Joseph P. Allen limati mu kuyankhulana ndi NPR, “Tinapeza kuti ndi mwana anaphunzira pothana ndi machitidwe maganizo ndi makolo awo ndendende zomwe iwo anatenga m'dziko lawo anzawo.”

Ana amene anaphunzira luso bwino kukambirana mu bata, anasonkhana, ndi chikhalidwe chikhulupiriro ntchito njira yomweyo pochita zinthu ndi anzao. Iwo mosavuta kapena Anagwetsa.

Allen zikusonyeza kuti makolo ndikuganiza zifukwa anthu si monga Bakuman koma monga maphunziro maganizo yovuta — something the child can use later in life when he or she is presented with things that he should really say no to, monga mankhwala kapena moŵa, ndi khalidwe yowopsa.

Ana kukula wathanzi, akuluakulu palokha, ayenera kuphunzitsidwa luso la kusagwirizana, kapena kulankhula mmbuyo oyambirira. Ayenera kuphunzira mawu kuchokera kumverera kwawo, maganizo, kapena maganizo, ndi kuphunzira kusankha zochita zawo.

Ndimayesetsa kuderera sanayambebe kupita kusukulu kwathu. We talk to them and try to help them express how they feel about stuff, ngati malamulo ife amalowerera. choncho, they feel included in the decision making.

Koma kodi mungatani pamene akulankhula kumbuyo akutembenukira yonyansa?

Ndi chibadwa, Ndikukuuzani. Inu mukudziwa pamene maganizo ana anu mitanda mzere wa pakati kuimirira okha kapena mwano. Ndine zina wolakwa, kwambiri. Ndimachita kudziwa momwe ine kuwayankha. choyamba, kukhadzikika ndiyeno fotokozani kuti akhoza kundiuza ine maganizo awo popanda mwano.

Choncho nthawi yotsatira mwana wanu akutengera ulamuliro wanu, phunzirolo mmbuyo, ndipo kumbukirani kuti ndi luso amafunika. ndiye, pitirirani ndi kumuthandiza. ndipo kumbukirani, aang'ono kuphunzira ndi chitsanzo, kwambiri!

magwero:
October 21, 2015. “Kids Who ‘Talk Back’ Become More Successful Adults” (yahoo.com)
November 6, 2013. "Chifukwa aliyense Mwana ayenera kukambirana Back makolo awo" (huffingtonpost.com)
January 3, 2012. "N'chifukwa Teen A amangolankhula Back mwina Tiyembekezere" (npr.org)