talking back good thing

Kids bua Back le hantle ke ntho e molemo!

Pele u se buang “Fumana outta mona!” kapa No Way!” bala poso ena eohle ea pele, ho tloha qalong ho fihlela qetellong.

bonnete ba, ha bana ba bua khutlela o, bohale nka lilemo tse fetang 'me ho ho le thata haholo ho lula u khobile matšoafo. U ke ke ua ho bonahala eka utloisisa hore sena se ntseng ba e nyenyane esita le na le methapo ea kutlo ho qholotsa o. Kahoo ho qala theoha, Ke tseba kamoo kelello ho sa utloahaleng.

Leha ho le joalo, ha u balile monahano ka morao maikutlo a, u tla ba qetella ba mo utloisisa hore arabise ka 'na feela ba molemo bakeng sa bana ba hao.

ngoana setsebi sa kelello Kelly M. Flanagan, o ile a ngola bukeng ea hae blog ya that he’s secretly happy that his kids say no to him every now and then. O hlalosa hore ho na le lintho tse ling bophelong tseo re lokelang ho fokotseha ho, 'me ho ba le lotho ho ikoetlisa haholo pele ho etsa joalo — esita le haeba seo se bolela ho re che neng ho ja ak'bol hae kapa strapping seatbelt hae ka — ke ke ho hlokahala.

“Hobane 'nete ke, u ke ke ua e le kannete re 'E’ ho fihlela u ka reng 'No.’ Re lokela ho tseba hore re na le khetho bophelong. le bolokolohi ba ho re 'Ha ho’ [kapa “No u leboha” joalokaha ke khetha] Ke haholo qalong ea bokhoni ba rōna ba ho re 'E.’ le rōna. ho qeta bophelo bohle. Le hore ba rate,” he writes. He adds that kids should learn how to talk back in a “ho batla ho bolokehile, tikoloho e khahlang ea tšehetsang” — seo e leng lehae.

Ehlile, ho lumella ngoana oa hao ho bua morao ha se bolele re ee ho eena ka linako tsohle. Ngoana hōla lokela ho ba le meeli.

O lokela ho ithuta ho sekisetsa le ho amohela hore o se fumane tsela ea hae. Ho tsohle ka ho leka-lekana, 'me ho tshebetso uena le ngoana oa hao e lokela ho ntlafatsa ho tsona ha ba ntse ba hōla.

Phuputso e boetse e mekokotlong ntlha ea hae. A 2011 Tsa Sehlooho se Ithutoang hatisitsoeng koranteng ea Development ngoana e bontša hore u se na likhang ke keng ea qojoa pakeng tsa motsoali le bana ba bang, haholo-holo tweens le lilemong tsa bocha, ha rua molemo le ngoana ha nako e ntse.

Empa ho se ho hoeletsa-kapa-ho akhela-sepakbola oa mofuta ofe ho pheha khang; ho feta ea puisano e, hlile.

Loto thuto mongoli Joseph P. Allen re ka buisana le NPR, “Re ile ra fumana hore seo mocha ithutile ho sebetsana mefuta ena ea ho ngangisana le batsoali ba bona e ne e hantle seo ba nka ho kena lefatšeng bona lithaka.”

Bana ba bang ba neng ba ithuta mesebetsi e loketseng negotiation a khutsise, bokelloa, 'me mokhoa o kholisehile sebelisa mokhoa o tšoanang ha ba sebelisana le metsoalle ea bona. Ha ba habonolo a susumetsoe kapa pushed holim '.

Allen fana ka maikutlo a hore batsoali ba nahana likhang tseo e seng e le nuisance empa ha e sa thupelo bakeng sa monahano oa mahlonoko — something the child can use later in life when he or she is presented with things that he should really say no to, tse kang ho sebelisa lithethefatsi kapa tahi, le boitšoaro leng kotsi.

Etsoe bana ho hōla bophelo bo botle, batho ba baholo ba ikemetseng, ho hlokahala hore ba ithute leng bokhoni boo oa hanyetsana, kapa arabise mathoasong a lekholo. Ba lokela ho ithuta kamoo lentsoe ho tsoa boikutlo bo joalo bo bona, menahano, kapa mehopolo, 'me le ithute ho etsa liqeto tsa habo bona.

Ke leka ho halala preschoolers rona. We talk to them and try to help them express how they feel about stuff, joaloka melao re lefisa. ka tsela eo, they feel included in the decision making.

Empa ke eng seo u ka se etsang ha a bua morao fellang kateng mobe?

Ho e bohlale ba tlhaho, Ke ne ke tla re. U tseba ha ho beha mabaka bana ba hao lifapano moleng o pakeng tsa ema bakeng sa bona kapa ho hloka tlhompho. Ke ka linako tse ling fumana a le molato oa lona, haholo. Ka linako tse ling ho ba le ho hlokomela hore na ke arabela bona. First, kokobela 'me joale hlalosa hore ba ka ba mpolella maikutlo a bona ntle le ho mo utloisa bohloko kapa ho hloka tlhompho.

Kahoo nakong e tlang ha ngoana oa hao o phephetsa bolaoli ba ya hao, nka mohato khutlela morao, 'me le hopole hore ho e leng bokhoni boo hloka. Ka mor'a moo,, tsoele pele le mo thusa hore a. me le hopole, bana ba banyenyane ithuta ka mohlala, haholo!

mehloli e:
October 21, 2015. “Kids Who ‘Talk Back’ Become More Successful Adults” (yahoo.com)
November 6, 2013. "Lebaka le leng le le Kid Lokela Bua Back to Batsoali Bona" (huffingtonpost.com)
January 3, 2012. "Ke hobane'ng ha Teen A mang ea Lipuo Back ka ba le bokamoso bo khanyang" (npr.org)